Guilty..or not?

Crumbling under the weight of guilt? Guilty or not, there's no escaping the guilt trap as it has got us tight and wounded.  What's really causing us to become a generation so ridden with guilt and the feeling of inadequacy? Forgetting a friend's birthday? Not having time for your boyfriend? Not recycling? Not replying e-mails? Not exercising enough? Whatever the reason, rather than feel guilty about feeling guilty, why not learn how to take charge of it?

Here's how, with five simple steps [taken from The Star].
Read this- especially if you're a woman. It will help =)

BE HONEST
Don't want to attend a dinner party mainly because you feel like staying in? Just say so. You don't have to be accommodate all the time. Don't overstretch yourself as this will cause you to feel guilty when you don't do what you say you will.

LOOK OUT FOR YOU
Repeat after us: Your needs are just as important. Stop thinking that you are responsible for the happiness and success for others. It's not your fault he doesn't try hard enough/is not caring/nice enough. The faster you learn that nothing you do will change him, the better for you.

SO WHAT IF YOU DISAPPOINT SOMEONE?
OK, so you said no to a friend. Chances are she won't take it too easily. But here's the thing- so what? In order to move away from the guilty feeling, you need to be assertive sometimes means saying no and disappointing someone. Just make up for it later on your own terms.

NO MORE IDEALS
Remember this, nobody is perfect. Not even you. So you don't need to be that tall/beautiful/skinny/perfect woman. You can just be..you. Don't create all these false ideals that will only make life difficult for you.

BE YOUR OWN WOMAN
Do you need someone else to tell you who to be? We didn't think so. Instead of having another person dictate how you should live your life, why not do it on your own terms? You have the right to your own happiness, however you see it. So stop trying to meet someone else's expectations of you.